How is this going to play out ?

[Fender1515]

The situation is like this, it's is, in my world, officially biking weather, time of year, it seems like a very long time since I got off tbike end of October and winterized.

Last weekend I was at a conference in Peterborough, I did break the journey for a tour round Lincoln, which I thought I new, but didn't, what an amazing city, lover the Waterfront, not so much The Steep, route back up to the historical quarter! but a great few hours.

Back on point, so situation, she and me haven't spent much time together of late, I would think that was a win for her, apparently not!

Weekend of the 14th to 16th March, we are doing a makers market in Buxton Pavilion,  she is a maker, and dam good at it, at which I will lend my wit and charm at the stall, that's how I see it.

I suggested I would like a bike weekend, fettling on Saturday, ride/blast out on Sunday,  the leads balloons falling from the sky would have flattened most of Yorkshire, some folks may think this might me a good ting, although I strongly disagree.

 So we have an impasse, do I stick to my guns and possibly suffer a long cold spell, but with the biggest self satisfied grin, which is going to piss her off even more, or do I demonstrate I am worthy of of the Love of this amazing lady, and leave the other love of my life abandoned.

I have done tinternet  search and can't find any counselling that addresses these issues.

So I am reaching out to the good folks of the forum, for any experiences  of dealing with this situation and finding a win win outcome.

PS: taking time off during the week is not an option at present!

Over

 

[RideWithStyles]

I’ll be blunt, from the folk lore story there is no win win, especially if that is your intention.

 

if you want the better morale high ground you will give in, your time on the bike can come a week or so later, the biking season has barely begun. 

[Fender1515]

16 minutes ago, RideWithStyles said:

I’ll be blunt, from the folk lore story there is no win win, especially if that is your intention.

 

if you want the better morale high ground you will give in, your time on the bike can come a week or so later, the biking season has barely begun. 

Have you been talking to her, that's what she said , I feel a conspiracy is a brewing. 

[RideWithStyles]

No .

obviously it’s not want you want to hear but you asked and that is what I would say.
you may get more out of it for giving in, in the long run, like favourable things or extra time out for being a good boy! if I was to really sell it to you.

but really it’s about priority, time together….

Up to you but thats my take on it and what I would do, 20+years of happiness together, 1child, no marriage chains, a few hurdles like recent disability still overcoming and still going strong….and I still get to ride on my bike.

Edited March 5 by RideWithStyles
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[Simon Davey]

I feel your pain @Fender1515.

I've spent the last 4 days telling the family and planning a ride out for this afternoon. Nope, daughter wants something else done this afternoon. "You can go out for 2 hours this morning instead" she says. Clearly no idea of the mental pain that causes. I shall have to postpone..

 

So to answer your issue, so must you. Don't ride the marriage anywhere near that slippery biking road. 

[curlylegend]

Ditch her, she's a dud !

[Fiddlesticks]

The answer, of course, is to ensure the pillion seat is comfortable enough for said Sunday blast/ride out.

 

Failing that, @RideWithStyles advice seems sound.