BikerMooFromMars

This is turning into a really heavy conversation!

@Moo it's good to hear it from your perspective!

it would have been so easy to give up contact, as it was made so difficult to see him, I was threatened with everything. untill I went to a solicitor and a lovely letter was sent and our arrangement has been the same now for 5 years. She still tries it on now and again and i just smile and grit my teeth as it is usually when my son is in the room. I just get him ready and mumble under my breath as it's his wellbeing that matters I can sort my own out when he is older.

this was by no means meant to be a women hating thread, but women can be such dicks

Haha, it's not heavy, I just wanted to tell ppl don't give up hope . Glad all is going mostly well your end. I didn't see it as women-hating don't worry (or I'd have kicked off ), and tbh I have experienced it first hand, and heard enough of women using their kids unfairly as weapons in disputes with ex's as they are the ones in more control. Fathers really should have more rights.

Good to hear your now sorted Moo just a shame kids get dragged into nasty divorces.

My ex did exactly the same, poisoned my daughter big style against me and my family, made her and my life a misery despite her being the route cause of our split. It's took many years for my daughter to see through it all we now get on fine and Karma has taken care of her Mother, she now on her own with little to no love or friendship shame !!

Life is but a one way ticket, so get the best ride you can.

Great you have agood relationship with your daughter again . It's incredibly tough. I would just advise anyone in the same position to persevere and be as nice as possible and ask your kid to make up their own mind on issues, not to be swayed by what they hear, and remind them this isn't their battle and you want to keep them out of it as much as possible. If they get dragged into it, at least it won't be by you and they will realise. Never give up. If they won't answer calls etc, write to them. Keep the contact going.

I now have not the greatest relationship with my mum (she's been with a wacky guy for the past 10 years who seems to hate me for no apparent reason - maybe cos my mum doesn't get on with his daughter?), and I'm now very close to the paternals. Oh well...I've learnt from their mistakes at least. Would never put a kid through what my bro and I went through. He has totally cut off my dad, nan (she did nothing wrong) and barely speaks to my mum...or me unless I contact him. Such a shame. Family are so important...I wouldn't give up on anyone so easily again.

Keep yer chin up and keep your relationships with your kids strong .

i recently bought a re-usable pair of ear plugs for £6 or so. clear silicone with 3 domes. I find these really easy to stick in my ear compared to the foam ones.

but as stu said, every ones ears are different.

I've been wanting to try the moulded ones with the speakers in though.

For biking or other stuff? Seems like a great idea, earphones never stay in comfortably for me, and after an hour or so get uncomfortable.

I've borrowed Chris' domed ones, they stay in better than foam ones but still uncomfortable. I'm just a fussy bugger

Might try those Boots ones first...

@Moo: I'm glad things worked out with your dad. and you have a healthy relationship now?

Yeah we do thanks, I moooved back near him this time last year and see him, my stepmum and nan all the time now - it's pretty awesome! Feel like I missed out on so much time and still regret it...but getting to make it up at long last. Love them all to bits .

I've tried all types of foam ones and just cannot get them to stay in, and they gross me out! Also, I could reeeally do with some proper ones for work...I looked into whether working in the dental field can damage hearing recently, and it does...not surprising when the ultrasonic scaler, fast handpiece, and the very loud generator are going for a good portion of my normal working days. It's something I am already concerned about as my hearing isn't that great anyway (thanks to too much loud music over many years and a job I had previously at uni working the club nights near massive speakers). Then of course I can use em on my bike too. I really like this:

Connecting cord - hang your plugs round your neck during breaks, and keep them together when not in use.

Not only will that make em easier to use at work in particular, but I'm less likely to lose them haha!

I know this topic has been covered before and is likely to be one ppl get bored of seeing...but as it's already been started - can anyone else vouch for the moulded earplugs or any more mid-range priced ones please?

I like how the guy literally doesn't even react after the headbutt hahahaha!!! He KNOWS he deserved it!!!

what ever colour you paint it the yellow beak has to stay makes the Guinness stand out better then and im sure if you google old adverts it will pop up somewhere

Yeah, it just won't go with their new nicely done-up garden is the problem. I'm gonna paint it black/grey/white first - if he likes it I'll varnish it, if he realises colour is better I'll just re-paint those parts methinks . I'm not sure atm...I might change my mind when I go to buy the paints

Need to try to find Guinness stickers for the pint glasses! It's a fun project at least, better than buying him something random he might not like or want!

Men meant to go and spread there seed if it's got tits and human, they will shaggy it...

women meant to protect child, once farther is no use to mother, he is no use to child and must be removed from child's life (accept with regards to money, obviously that is very different!)

Either way we pretty much agree on the end result ...

Errm, I wouldn't go that far! That's a verrrry negative way to look at things, I certainly don't think like that. How is dad no use to a child? ....but maybe you've had a crap experience and that's how you feel. My dad was always a big part of my life til shit hit the fan when I was 14-19. Even tho my mum slated my dad she didn't get money off him.

Dads are just as important as mums I would hate to have a kid and dad not be there for him/her. Breakups are hard on everyone, but I really think kids need to be kept out of it as much as possible. It's so hard and hurtful as it us without them being dragged into it all.

From my experience with a Reliant Scimitar...

*Insert normal preparation advice* then make sure you use a proper fibreglass primer or it'll just come off (epoxy primer is good).

Dark colours tend to crack and craze far more than lighter colours because fibreglass is quite heat sensitive.

If you're going to mark out your design on the bird, do it in pencil as ink can seep in to the fibre and be a right git to get rid of.

I had to Google that - that is one sexy car! Hehe

Awesome thanks - looked into it a bit this morning, looks like primer you paint on is more recommended, will see if I can get hold of epoxy...need to get started on it soon! Read that you can use pretty much any kind of paint on it...I really thought acylics might run though. Wonder if I can use household/wall paints? I only need black and white...

...Looking forward to getting started on it!

Seen this before - the boring person in me is shouting "SET UP!!!!!"

Esp the Maccy D's one - they all seem to have plenty of time to see red and react!

Still made me laugh though

So my old man is asking for something a bit different this birthday - to sort his old bird out! My dad is into toucans, I'm into cows! He bought this Toucan years ago and had it re-painted by a friend who then coated it in yacht varnish. He stuck up in his garden and has been there about 8years, pride of place bursting out of the wall! Very open to the elements as you can see:

Cheers Moo, it's basically all cosmetic damage apart from the clutch and gear change levers [emoji22]

Got a slightly aching left ankle from having 230kg of triumph land on it!

And then there's the no claims bonus out of the window too.

At least I can use the 125 until she's fixed.

You've got a 125?? Awesome, what one? At least you've got a backup plan!

Last minute family get together is now cancelled on my part due to a low speed collision this morning [emoji22] dumbass car driver pulled out on another car on a roundabout which slammed on and I went into the back quarter!

I'm ok, bike isn't [emoji22]

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NOOOOOOO!

So sorry to hear that, hope bikey is sorted soon!! Glad you're ok

I read somewhere to try the car aircon demustyfying stuff I've use that stuff in my car & it does kill off the fungal smell aircons sometimes get. I also read about putting your boots in the microwave for a minute to kill off the bacteria but I'm gonna ask for the video if you do this being as boots will have metal in them somewhere

Welcome to the forum

Omg that is disgusting, surely it'd make the microwave pong too?

That website link I sent suggests putting them in the freezer! . Depends how desperate you are (and how stinky the boots are!)

I was willing to try and make it work. She wasn't. Cheating on me twice is one way to convince me to stop trying

You what?!?!?! Jeeeeez, better without!!!!!

I feel for you mate... Do you have court order in place RE access...

I had this some years ago when I started taking my daughter sailing. Ex wife tried to stop me and was trying to control the activities in my access time.

In the end I took the gamble and said the court has placed a court order allowing me access. They have trusted me with the welfare of our child, I can do what I want with the child (legally and within reason).

If you do not like the activities we are doing stop the access and I will l take you to court for breach of court order...

I have had very few grumbles from X since then....

Although she has made daughter promise she will NEVER EVER go on the back of a motorbike .

Then this is the same mum that recently a few years later than the above. Daughter tells daddy mummy was crying because daughter was going to be away on holiday with her daddy.

Leaving mummy on her own with younger 1/2 sister, with step dad coming back every evening and mummy was not going to cope on her "own"!!

Luckily our bond is still strong enough that daughter can walk away from the tears at 8, but some times I wonder how long this will remain...

It is a bit worrying though - my mum cursed my dad all the time, was upset all the time, took all her hurt out on me. I already hated him for cheating on her and leaving but I would've been ok and come round after some time...but my mum kept turning me against him and my stepmum, slating him all the time etc. Went years without contact, I attacked him for the kind attempts of contact, ripped up a load of money he gave me for a birthday and destroyed thoughtful presents and posted them back to him. He wasn't perfect though, he was always on the booze which didn't help himself...but he was going through a tough time too as he lost his 20yo business, going through divorce and was losing both his kids too.

Wasn't til my 2nd year at uni til he wrote me a letter with pictures of him and my stepmum and stepsis and their dog and told me about their life and asked me about mine til I wrote back. Eventually met up and we have been mostly fine ever since - see him all the time now I live in SW London. I really regret all those years I missed with him and the hurt I let myself suffer cos I listened to my mum. He did some crappy things but at the end of the day it wasn't my battle and I shouldn't have been involved.

Just make sure your kid still feels loved, don't put mum down but don't let her talk crap about you to your child either. My mum, 15 years later, STILL talks crap about my dad. Guess who I have the stronger relationship with now?! Was always more of a daddy's girl anyway .

A little off topic I know. I just feel for you and thought I'd share my experience in the hope you won't have anything nearly as rubbish happen to any of you lot. Kids shouldn't be involved in relationship stuff.

If your ex knows you ride like a loony (in no way saying you do of course!) I could understand...maybe some reassurance would be good? Or do a slow charity ride or something? Or just wait til he's a bit older (12+) and can make more informed choices and tell his mum she can't make decisions for him. then it won't be all dad's fault...

It is a shame as it'd be a nice, fun bonding experience and he could show off to all his mates!...but not the end of the world, there are lots of other nice things you could do together.

Well I'm picking up our wedding rings tomorrow ready for the "big day" in a little under 8 weeks.

There's no way I won't be wearing it considering how much the bast*rd cost!

Aww bless ya, good luck with it!

I always wear my wedding band too.

 

To me, if you're not willing to wear that band that dictates you're taken - you're basically putting yourself on the market! I enjoy being married, I enjoy wearing my ring!

 

I have a mate who does the opposit. He is not married or attached and when he goes out he wears a wedding band ... it tells his 'prey' that he is safe for fun but wont be looking for anything serious. Some women will happily jump into bed with a married man but wouldn't jump into bed with a single man for fear of things getting too serious. Same is true with some men by the way.

Groooooss!

Found some great tips here (bit of a random website name!):

http://www.disabled-world.com/assistivedevices/household/tips/shoes.php

Hi, I am a newcomer to The Motorbike Forum; in fact it is the first forum I have ever tried.

On a recent trip to Spain my boots got soaked. Since then they don't smell; they STINK!!

Any advice that will help so that they are allowed in the house again.

Cheers,

Grandad Mike.

Hellooooo, welcome to the forum! If it were me I'd wait til a hot, sunny day like today, get me a bottle of the concentrated Dettol (lavendar flavoured or some nice smelling one), dilute it in a bucket of water and immerse em and scrub em from the inside with a sponge thoroughly, rinse then prop upside down outside in a sunny spot. Leave em to dry, once dried put some odor eater insoles in there. Will take a fair while to dry though! Then put some leather treating stuff on them if they're leather.

I've never done this myself btw haha, but it's what I would do!

If not, I'd just buy new boots don't ever get stinky feet luckily !

I usually take Beacham's hot lemon powder mixed with water, but would it taste better and cure the cold quicker if it was mixed with JD instead??

Probably!

Ugh, I hate that stuff and Beecham's is the worst I have tasted! But I'm a fussy one

Got one, Jack is helping me with my sore throat!

 

yep, ive 'cured' tonsillitis with a bottle of JD in the past

It's magical stuff - tastes like my 30th birthday

A warm brandy works a treat too!

Non-alcoholic remedies I recommend...

Got one, Jack is helping me with my sore throat!

Anyone still going? Things look to be going well so I may well be up for coming after all...

'Fraid not. Might go to the Chelsea Championship Parade with my old man and stepmum for the lols (I'm not a footie fan but was such a laugh yeeeears ago when I joined them!)! Have a good time lovely

 

Chuck eggs at em

The standard etiquette is CELERRRYYYYYYYYYY!!

The irony of all this is, she was the one that pushed for it. Now that we're separated she tried to block it but alas had already signed off on the legal stuff so can't. Karma of a kind

Dear lord....that's quite amoosing!

Out of interest, did you make any dosh out of the documentary? (Not considering doing one myself haha, just genuinely interested!)