TunnelEyes

Sorry for ranting here :')

One day I'll finish a psych. lecture and f**k off for a ride on my nice white 2016 ER6n <3 without anyone pissing on my parade, look damn fine in my leathers and he can enjoy the "practicalities" of his car and being single

I do weightlifting, a lot. I have worked out with a number of professionals including fitness models and people sponsored by USN and grenade and the like. If a professional trainer says your form is correct, that is the person to believe.

The bike thing I see irritating, the university thing is worrying and the fact that he's even doing it when being contradicted by a professional independent observer indicats to me that you thoroughly need to re-assess this situation urgently.

I'm sorry things are tough for you right now and I only need to think back a short while for when I was emotionally reaching out desperately to anyone that'd have me, seeking everything from validation to comfort. But this is not healthy. Given your past mental health issues, this is the last type of person you need in your life. Sorry to be so blunt but I've been there myself in the relatively recent past and I am speaking from very painful and hard won experience.

If you have a counsellor, talk to them as soon as you are able. If you don't have one, PM me and I can put you in touch with a number of national charities who work to help people find the right kind of help.

Just sucks to end up here again! Awaiting a psychotherapist appt. on the 13th, just a length process that leaves you to float in the meantime. My bike has been my lifeline and worrying about her is awful

I don't know any biker women 22 years younger than me who would be gullible enough to... well, yaknow

 

Your not too far from Dorset.......

 

Ahaha but TE isn't gullible

Besides, I suspect my current paramour may not appreciate that thought!

I'M TAKING THE COMPLIMENT!

Still currently not getting what I'm doing wrong? I try my hardest to be helpful and supportive and loving and everybody I meet seems to just instantly get bored of me or treat me like dirt? Why is it so hard to go, hey yeah, you love your biking go you! You wanna do your license instead of get a car? Go you! I literally ask for nothing yet get knocked all the time? We do weightlifting, knocks my form (even though trainer says it's fine) knocks my riding, even though I'd like to think it's fairly good considering three months ago I'd sit in my room and cry at the thought of being on a bike. Shake with fear. Try not to throw up. I want to go to university? Apparently I'm wasting my time.

Why is every single person I meet like this? Always? Nobody just wants good vibes and mutual appreciation anymore x( everyone just tries to knock you down. I don't even understand why. Not for any ulterior breeding motive so to speak, that's also evident. Why walk into someone's life who's healing from so much shite just to be the same as everyone else immediately.

My bikes in very poor condition, had nearly a month and a half signed off work for poor mental health caused by abuse. Had to quit my job, find one with very few hours and am scraping the pennies together to try and keep her going and afford my tests asap because I need it so badly. I can't even enjoy riding my bike ride now because the grating noise in my gearbox is so loud and it just needs so much TLC which I can't afford.

Uhhh sorry all

Right. Incoming rant. Prepare yourselves, actually feel like people care for once so flood gates are opening...

Effing sucks because I was steering clear of relationships after 5 years ofabuse, only to be temptedin by an I'm different. Sucks to get into this not even 2 months in xD

It just sucks because surely you should be supportive even if its not your thing. Turned to him all serious like, One day... Will you... COME WATCH RED BULL X FIGHTERS WITH ME?! Instant no Uhhhh. Can't wait til I have my license so I can pass the fool in slow moving traffic like byeeeeee

So, I feel like this isn't going to work...

Doesn't ride yet judges my riding - you're too slow into roundabouts/junctions (only been riding 3 months! I only have 11hp!)

Constantly says why don't you get a car I WANT MY BIKE

'Wait til you see the ice in winter', THAT'S OKAY, IT'LL MAKE ME A BETTER RIDER!

When I say someone tried to kill me 'Well I've seen your riding, its probably you'

Why can't he just appreciate my love of bikes and realise its not governed by practicality

Thank you all for the responses! Got too nervous to check back as I felt like I looked annoying and whiney! No response but they're very popular! Have booked my theory!

Everything is tough right now and seems only to be getting tougher! All I want right now is this license! Theory booked at least

Just sent this to a local instructor I use, very worried it'll come across wrong but I can only hope. Feels weird but somewhat necessary to divulge personal circumstances but I hope it just offers a little personality to it. Side note, instructor trained psychiatric nurse for clarity.

Bit late really as I've sent it, guess I'm just looking for some moral support in a difficult patch, trying to make things work, just in case for once they do!

Dear ****

Returning happy customer here with a strange request which I'm almost a hundred percent positive will be denied but, as they say, nothing ventured nothing gained!

After my Re-CBT with you and *** (who was absolutely great just to note) I properly discovered my love of riding, have rode the best part of 2.5k I miles since and obviously began to save for my A2 as the Re-CBT only needed to be done to have the road time to feel more confident!

All going great, smashing, had the money good to go, was getting ready to make a booking but ended up being off sick from work, depleting my savings for my much wanted bike test, give up my horse, having to quit my job to find a part time as I've been really struggling with mental health issues, which I'm sure you've seen in more depth than I could ever know, hence the full explanation!

This isn't a "boohoo poor me", just felt the need to fully justify the circumstances of a request that is not within the ordinary scheme of things.

Anywho, I was wondering if there is the potential to pay for the A2 training in installments? Obviously would be happy to set up standing order, sign finance contracts, pay a larger deposit, pay off soon as possible and so on so forth. Not seeking charity or a freebie!

I have regular income but less disposable income p/m to accumulate, in one fell swoop, the amount needed, which will take time off my chance to take my riding up a level in time to buy myself a decent bike for my 21st, and right now bike aspirations are one of the only things keeping me going!

Yet again, sorry for the details, and personal circumstances that could possibly be interpreted as a sob story, and of course apologies for the abnormal request, desperate times eh!

Kind regards,

Meeeeeee

the other day, i said "im taking the bike for a spin" and the other half said "really? thats such a waste of time, why dont you do some tidying up instead"

who in their right mind would pick tidying up over a ride in the sunshine???

Woah. What on earth is that sorta concept.

So far, Mrs Lat had been very tolerant of my new hobby, but she did try using it as leverage for us both going to see Beauty and the Beast at the cinema the other night. Got so far as booking tickets, but then found another female friend to go with her instead. Lucky escape!

Jammy asf

Met someone who seems highly tolerant of the bike thing, even to the point where he sourced a temporary nut for my exhaust (annoyingly difficult to find one that fits) and put on my bike whilst I was at work so it was ready for when I got home <3

Ooopps, you OK, and how is the bike

 

Bikes totally fine aside from minor scuffs, my leg aches a bit but I did 130 miles afterwards so only v. Light bruising

Glad you're OK! and fair play for getting straight back on. sadly it's the spills you learn a lot more from than everything going fine!

ahead of the game as well... falling off was step 18

Woooo! :') We're coming up to our first thousand miles together <3

Good girl , straight back in the saddle

Lost my nerve a little, esp on corners, but it'll come

Ooopps, you OK, and how is the bike

Bikes totally fine aside from minor scuffs, my leg aches a bit but I did 130 miles afterwards so only v. Light bruising

134 miles yesterday and my first meeting with the floor from rider error

have you gone all the way round a roundabout yet?

Still no actually

249 miles since Monday xD not sure why I'm counting but hey ho

Slowly losing the capacity to not constantly talk about bikes or riding. Watching people's eyes glaze over because they're like "Not again..." Beginning to feel like I need more of my own kind haha as much as I am just a beginner! Also feel like any future partners are going to be further restricted as I can't imagine being with someone not interested

How do you contain the bike talk in social situations? How do you meet other bikers? Know a couple but most don't want to ride with slow 125

 

Hey, you're in Dorset, there's a fair few rides out that way aren't there?! Anyway, if you fancy taking a spin down the a30/a38 and meet halfway we could start a 125 south west ride of our own in Devon or something

Hey that could be a solid idea once I'm a little better

Whatever you do, don't find someone who doesn't like bikes and then set out to change them.....It don't work..... My situation was the opposite, my ex didn't like bikes.....hence the ex!......

Find local bike meets, biker pubs and cafes and just go down there and chat to people.....you'll soon find other bikers that will be happy to ride out with you......

Yeah I just can't see that ever working! I can deal with people not liking horses as long as they tolerate my passion and just generally leave me alone to do my thang haha but bikes I'm afraid totally different! You take them home with you

Slowly losing the capacity to not constantly talk about bikes or riding. Watching people's eyes glaze over because they're like "Not again..." Beginning to feel like I need more of my own kind haha as much as I am just a beginner! Also feel like any future partners are going to be further restricted as I can't imagine being with someone not interested

How do you contain the bike talk in social situations? How do you meet other bikers? Know a couple but most don't want to ride with slow 125

Brilliant! Have you smashed through the Hoggs Eight Step Programme now then?

I was out with a few guys on Friday, and was amazed to hear that one of them passed his test last summer and had only done about 1,000 miles since then. Nothing beats time on the bike I've found, and I can definitely say that the more I've ridden, the more my skill and confidence have improved. Keep it up!

Nooo I don't know anything past step three haha! Spent at least an hour riding yesterday and little bikey got up to 60 waheeyyy downhill it tries at least for its mighty 11bhp.

Done 268 miles since its MOT like 5 weeks ago. Can't believe it

Well I don't think you're supposed to go do 21 miles (or any in the eyes of the law!) on your own without a CBT, but at least you'll nail it now!

Just seen this, I did have a CBT but just a year and 364 days old CBT haha!

First Saturday ride and omg was so busy lost my nerve a little!

Saturday ride, let's call that step 2

step 3 is.... *music* THE ROUNDABOUT CHALLENGE!!

within the next week you need to have completed the following

for the purposes of the hoggs roundabout challenge, mini roundabouts do not count.

1. exited a roundabout at the first/left exit

2. exited a roundabout at the second/straight on exit

3. exited a roundabout at the third/right exit

4. gone all the way round wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

So I've done 1-3 but only small roundabouts? Well except one large one but at 7am so quiet as hell :') rode for at least three hours yesterday! Few sketchy moments D: including finding the engine case instead of the back brake, only having 9psi in my rear tyre and not checking shoulder before pulling out eeeeee

First Saturday ride and omg was so busy lost my nerve a little!

Thank you Hoggs!

Oh dear someone, yeah my headlamp is actually so week it was like riding blind! It was routes that I know at least but I feel like my cbt today will give me the confidence I need to get going properly