Phooey Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 ... that I announce that after 15 years of marriage I am now a single, lonely biker:(f**k break-ups are hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoggs Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Aww sorry to hear that phooey You'll always have us to keep you company!! I've just made it worse haven't I. ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al_stu Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Sorry to hear it, Not good....Better buy another bike to cheer yourself up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fq-craigus Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Chin up, plenty more frogs on the pad and loads of them ride bikes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phooey Posted March 29, 2016 Author Share Posted March 29, 2016 Sorry to hear it, Not good....Better buy another bike to cheer yourself up Def couldn't afford another bike now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phooey Posted March 29, 2016 Author Share Posted March 29, 2016 Chin up, plenty more frogs on the pad and loads of them ride bikes Not when you're as old as me mate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al_stu Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Chin up, plenty more frogs on the pad and loads of them ride bikes Not when you're as old as me mate. Actually I believe it's easier as you get older! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eastanglianbiker Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 sorry to hear that hope if there is any mud slinging going on it all settles soon and you pick yourself up and look forward and not back Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gin Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Oh god I am so so sorry mate.. That's awful for you.. We're all here if there's owt we can do x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phooey Posted March 29, 2016 Author Share Posted March 29, 2016 Fortunately, if there is such a thing in these circumstances, the major issue is the pain and sorrow ... no mud slinging no blame just happened Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stu Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Sorry to hear the Phooey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JRH Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Not when you're as old as me mate. Sorry to hear that Phooey, but take it from me you never know what's round the corner and age is all in the mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phooey Posted March 29, 2016 Author Share Posted March 29, 2016 Now where do I put that add for one of those friendly lady bikers looking for a mate? lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phooey Posted March 29, 2016 Author Share Posted March 29, 2016 Oh god I am so so sorry mate.. That's awful for you.. We're all here if there's owt we can do x Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrissb6 Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Sorry to hear this mate, been there done that not recommended. Sue my new partner is a family lawyer, before she met me she had no idea just how strong the bond is between a motorcyclist and there bikes. Over the year she dealt with numerous separations where the motorbike has been the cause of the break up. Top tip, search a lady who just loves jumping onto the back of a bike it makes life so much easier. Hope things work out for both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RantMachine Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Really sorry to hear it If you ever need a sympathetic ear (or just the usual sympathetic photograph of a Haynes page), you know where I am and I've always got the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CGD217 Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Sorry to hear it buddy. Just try and keep your head up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rennie Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sorry to hear this!been there got the t shirt! You'll find that things have a funny habit of turning out better in the end! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fozzie Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sad news.I echo the above, if you keep your eyes forward with lessons learnt, you can make a better future for yourself.Hardships can be used to look at yourself and decide what you want to do moving forward. Whether that be the quiet life with a bike, or if you want someone else there. Try not to let any bitterness linger as bogging down there hurts no one but yourself.If you have a group of friends nearby behind you, I'd fall back on them and take a little while to move through what happened. And you never know, I've seen it enough where people fall back on a friend group and end up with someone from it, or connected to it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phooey Posted March 30, 2016 Author Share Posted March 30, 2016 Really sorry to hear it If you ever need a sympathetic ear (or just the usual sympathetic photograph of a Haynes page), you know where I am and I've always got the time. You're a star Ollie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phooey Posted March 30, 2016 Author Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sad news.I echo the above, if you keep your eyes forward with lessons learnt, you can make a better future for yourself.Hardships can be used to look at yourself and decide what you want to do moving forward. Whether that be the quiet life with a bike, or if you want someone else there. Try not to let any bitterness linger as bogging down there hurts no one but yourself.If you have a group of friends nearby behind you, I'd fall back on them and take a little while to move through what happened. And you never know, I've seen it enough where people fall back on a friend group and end up with someone from it, or connected to it. I appreciate your words Fozzie.There is definitely no bitterness there. I will always love her and never do anything to hurt her. I want to move on and enjoy the rest of my life and I want to do everything in my power to allow her to do the same. I am sad, sad beyond words, but that is not an excuse to make it difficult for her.She says that she loves me and that I am her best friend but after 20 years of being together she is no longer IN love with me and for her that is not enough.My network of friends is incredibly small ... my friends are her friends also and I am leaving them to support her. Time I signed up to some new friendship groups - difficult because I have always had female friends, I relate to them so much better, and I find it diffucult to make male friendships. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phooey Posted March 30, 2016 Author Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sorry to hear this!been there got the t shirt! You'll find that things have a funny habit of turning out better in the end! Cheers Ian .. we never think so at the time but human are super resiliant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoshTimmins Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sorry to hear this Phooey!I occasionally get sent to work in Bristol, next time I am there I am always happy to meet up for a cold one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fozzie Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 There is definitely no bitterness there. I will always love her and never do anything to hurt her. I want to move on and enjoy the rest of my life and I want to do everything in my power to allow her to do the same. I am sad, sad beyond words, but that is not an excuse to make it difficult for her.She says that she loves me and that I am her best friend but after 20 years of being together she is no longer IN love with me and for her that is not enough. I have to say I appreciate her candour with you, and your response has been uniquely upstanding.Did you find out quite suddenly?It’s often better that way, as fighting for it only to lose it often leaves you with more pieces to pick up at the end.Dust yourself off, get on the bike, summer is coming Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tango Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sorry to hear this, mate.......but you've got to look ahead and not dwell on the past.One of my mates has just had the same thing happen to him......After nearly 30 years.....but he's joined various groups, like walking groups and the like where he's meeting a lot of other people. Check out the biker dating groups too..... Good luck mate...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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