I think the time of going on the pull has diminished significantly - I don't think people expect it any more. I was in my late 20s when I was dating and only very rarely did a night out in Cambridge yield any results (funnily enough, one of my successes was when I popped along to meet a mate in my biking gear ). Have a go on eharmony, the fact you have to pay means it's for people willing to put in the effort, not just for those who want loads of messages to boost their ego. BTW - if you register (but not pay) then wait 2-3 weeks, they will send you codes to get 70% off. For your profile, don't have any "hilarious" pics of you pulling stupid faces, standing in front of monument xyz or on the razz with your mates - just have some natural shots of you doing everyday stuff. If you've got a few muscles, it doesn't hurt to discretely flash them a bit. For the wordy bit - be conversational, you need to say how great you are without bragging. If you're handy at DIY then mention it - most of the girls I dated said they was a box ticker. Do get someone to run their eye over it if you can.