Good Morning Good Night and General Chat.

[S-Westerly]

27 minutes ago, rennie said:

Yeah! won £3.10

Me too. The excitement was all too much I had to go and have a lie down.

[skyrider]

8 hours ago, rennie said:

Yeah! won £3.10

well thats more than i got but then i didnt buy a ticket 

[dynax]

Good morning

[Mississippi Bullfrog]

Brrrr.. we've had to turn the heating off. It's a tad chilly getting up this morning. Not looking forward to next week as my office is at 13 degrees. I'll probably be at my desk in my riding kit.

[Mississippi Bullfrog]

Belay that, just called into the office and it's 11 degrees. I'm not sure my heated gloves will work on the keyboard.

[rennie]

Good Morning. hard frost here too!

[Bender]

23 hours ago, rennie said:

Good Morning  We've got both Sue's daughters and other halves here!

Wedding planning! 

My daughter is also getting married around the same time!(next year)

 

I could do with a Euromillions win! 

Waste of money, save it for the divorce they are even worse  

[Bender]

@rennieNiece is getting married, me sister informed us that is going to cost 253 per night for the pleasure of going as they have had to pay 15k for the venue and they need to cover costs  

 

Also bring your own booze on first night, kicked out if you do that next night, it's because they will only open bar 1night. 

 

All this for a mid week wedding, its worse on a weekend apparently. 

 

I gave a polite no fecking chance, 2 days off work and prob £800.00 for the privilege of attending, I will drive and stay sober and that will be that. 

[Tiggie]

Guy at work was telling me his Partner has been invited to a friends hen do weekend party.  Will cost her £600 to attend!!! 

 

Rented a huge mansion type place apparently so they can look rich & famous for instagram 

[Bender]

Just now, Tiggie said:

Guy at work was telling me his Partner has been invited to a friends hen do weekend party.  Will cost her £600 to attend!!! 

 

Rented a huge mansion type place apparently so they can look rich & famous for instagram 

It's madness the amount people think its OK to inflict on others for fecking face ache and insta

[Tiggie]

We kept the cost of our Wedding low so we could spend more on the Honeymoon in Mexico 

 

I just can't get my head around inviting someone and telling them they have to pay for the privilege!!

[Bender]

30 minutes ago, Tiggie said:

We kept the cost of our Wedding low so we could spend more on the Honeymoon in Mexico 

 

I just can't get my head around inviting someone and telling them they have to pay for the privilege!!

Us too, our wedding cost less than 3 couples staying for 2nights, and we still had a nice wedding. 

[MikeHorton]

We have friends in Czech Republic, they helped arrange ours for us. 41 guests 5k for the whole lot. Free bar for all the guests and amazing Michelin rated food. We still go back to the hotel and the managers remember our names really lovely right next to the castle. Mention weddings over here and they bump the price up. Went to a great wedding on Friday tho a work colleague hotel bar prices were same as the pub if not better. Nice leafy Manor house in South staffs

[Steve_M]

7 hours ago, Bender said:

Us too, our wedding cost less than 3 couples staying for 2nights, and we still had a nice wedding. 

I got married once. In a registry office. A few family members and friends of my wife to be as guests. Sod doing that again. 
 

 

[rennie]

Good Morning 

[dynax]

Good morning

Went to Brid and it was a really nice run albeit a tad windy at times. Rode down into the harbour parking area, no motorcycle bays okay fair enough, but where the heck are you supposed to display a ticket securely on a bike ? Most places I have visited have free motorcycle parking and usually dedicated bays no such luck here. At that point I lost my enthusiasm for wetting a line and decided to move on, Took the coast road heading towards Hornsea and called in at Ulrome and Atwick just to reccy the area for future trips where I am geared up for beach fishing instead of off the pier. I got the balance just right as well between gear and stability and weight on the bike

[Fozzie]

14 hours ago, Steve_M said:

I got married once. In a registry office. A few family members and friends of my wife to be as guests. Sod doing that again. 
 

 

 

My girlfriend has been at odds with me lately over my views on marriage. And it's not her fault I don't think, as a number of friends have asked recently how long we've been together (3 years), only to then ask when the question is being popped.

I think I've hit that sweet spot age, and had a partner just the right amount of time for people to think this is when it's "supposed" to happen. Luckily, it's not a deal breaker, but I think she'd like it to happen.

 

But anyway, good morning!

[Mississippi Bullfrog]

3 hours ago, Fozzie said:

 

My girlfriend has been at odds with me lately over my views on marriage. And it's not her fault I don't think, as a number of friends have asked recently how long we've been together (3 years), only to then ask when the question is being popped.

I think I've hit that sweet spot age, and had a partner just the right amount of time for people to think this is when it's "supposed" to happen. Luckily, it's not a deal breaker, but I think she'd like it to happen.

 

But anyway, good morning!

This is very broad brush and many couples will be different - but after many years experience there is certainly a trend that says where people come together and are happy together for a few years and then think about marriage it often doesn't work out because marriage is a different relationship to how they came together in the first place. Unless they recognise this change then it's quite common for couples who have been together for years to go their separate ways just before or soon after a wedding.

 

Where people come together with the intention of being married, even if they are together for several years before the wedding, things tend to go better.

 

I've known quite a few friends end up going separate ways after several years together when one or both of them assume that the natural next step is getting married. It isn't always the case. 

 

 

 

[Steve_M]

2 hours ago, Mississippi Bullfrog said:

This is very broad brush and many couples will be different - but after many years experience there is certainly a trend that says where people come together and are happy together for a few years and then think about marriage it often doesn't work out because marriage is a different relationship to how they came together in the first place. Unless they recognise this change then it's quite common for couples who have been together for years to go their separate ways just before or soon after a wedding.

 

Where people come together with the intention of being married, even if they are together for several years before the wedding, things tend to go better.

 

I've known quite a few friends end up going separate ways after several years together when one or both of them assume that the natural next step is getting married. It isn't always the case. 

 

 

 

I worked for a guy who had been with his partner for around 9yrs, living together. They got married. She decided it wasn’t working inside a year. 
 

My good lady and I have been shacked up for 20yrs, after “courting” for four years. Our friends often asked if we were ever getting married, some accusing me of being scared of commitment. I once got down on one knee in front of them and seriously asked the question. Her answer? “Don’t be a twit” (yes, twit… I checked). 
 

 

[Fozzie]

@Mississippi Bullfrog What you say reminds me of a friend who split from his life of 6 months, after 13 years together. He thought it was just a piece of paper, as they had a life plan figured out. But she thought it meant a big dynamic change of their relationship, and it split them up very quickly. I'm a bit of an agony aunt among friends for it as I had a scrape with marriage in my mid-20s, but due to some unique features it ended with me reset back to single, rather than divorced. But this isn't my reason for avoiding it now, I've always had an irk about it, and feel in someway I'm a misfit for it. Ironically, my parents have been married for 35 years, and both sets of grandparents went to the very end, 60+ years.

 

Apparently millennials marry less, but succeed more when they do, so that's a good sign for those who know youngsters going for it now. I think with all the horror stories online, people have actually thought about it more seriously, and there's less pressure these days as well. I kind of hope my younger sister goes for it, but blimey does it cost a penny or two these days

[S-Westerly]

I'm married and have been for +40 years but everyone is different. I'd not want to feel I was pressurised into a relationship. My son was in a long term relationship where there was pressure on him to get married. The woman in question though put pressure on him to change his occupation from Naval Aviator. He pushed back a bit and the relationship imploded and he walked away. Funnily enough he bounced into another relationship with no pressure on him at all. Within a year he jacked the RN from his own choice as he was fed up after 5 years of constant deployment. A year after that he was married and 3 more later has 2 kids and seems as happy as a pig in poo.

[MikeHorton]

Can't buy happiness. I'm mulling over a career change v hard after 24 years commitment and can't see myself doing anything different

[Mickly]

I’ve been living in sin with Missus Mickly for nearly 30 years ( both previously married )

We spoke about marriage & settled on knowing that I’d be happy to marry her if she  ever wanted, it’s worked well.

[rennie]

Good Morning  Brrrrr! cold tonight!

[onesea]

3 hours ago, rennie said:

Good Morning  Brrrrr! cold tonight!

Yup was cold heading home… good morning and good night.